FAQS

I am currently based in Washington State in the United States and work fully online.

I offer relationship coaching for couples worldwide. All sessions are virtual, so you do not need to be physically near me to work together.

Because this is relationship coaching and not psychotherapy, services are not limited by your location. If you have a stable internet connection and a private space to talk, we can meet from wherever you are living.

Yes. I specialize in online relationship coaching for couples. Sessions are held over secure video, allowing you and your partner to join from the same location or different locations if needed. Online work offers flexibility, consistency, and access to support regardless of geography.

This is relationship coaching, not psychotherapy.

Therapy focuses on diagnosing and treating mental health conditions and processing clinical concerns. Relationship coaching focuses on present-day relational patterns, communication, accountability, and repair.

My work is informed by therapeutic models, including Relational Life Therapy and Brainspotting, but it is structured as coaching. This means the focus is on how you relate now, how patterns show up between you, and how to create meaningful change moving forward. Coaching does not replace therapy, psychiatric care, or crisis support.

This work is a strong fit for couples who feel caught in repeating conflict, growing distance, shutdown cycles, or power struggles and genuinely want something to shift. You may be navigating major life transitions, relocation, cultural change, political stress, or long standing patterns that feel bigger than the current argument.

It is especially supportive for queer, kinky, poly, and non traditional partnerships who want a space where their relationship structure and identities are respected rather than pathologized.

This approach works best when both partners are willing to look at their own patterns, take responsibility for their impact, and practice new ways of relating in real time. You do not have to be perfect. You do need to be willing.

My work is grounded in Relational Life Therapy and integrates skills drawn from STAIR when helpful. I may also incorporate Brainspotting when additional nervous system support is needed.

Relational Life Therapy focuses on accountability, repair, and changing the patterns that drive disconnection. It helps partners move out of blame or withdrawal and into more direct, responsible ways of relating.

STAIR informed work strengthens emotional awareness, regulation, and relational skills. It builds capacity for noticing what you feel, naming it clearly, and staying grounded enough to communicate without escalating or shutting down.

Brainspotting is a brain and body based approach that helps process stress and emotional activation that can get stored in the nervous system. When patterns are rooted in old survival responses, this can support deeper regulation.

Together, these approaches address both the relational dynamic and the nervous system underneath it, so change is not just intellectual but embodied and sustainable.

Your first session focuses on getting clear about what has been happening between you and what you want to be different. We will identify the patterns that repeat, the stressors affecting your relationship, and the goals you are hoping to move toward.

Because this work is grounded in Relational Life Therapy, we will also begin exploring your history and family of origin. Early relationship experiences shape how we protect ourselves, handle conflict, and respond under stress. We look at that context not to blame, but to understand how old survival strategies may still be running the show.

I pay close attention to what happens in the room, not just the story about what happened during the week. If tension shows up, we may slow it down and examine it together so you can see your dynamic in real time.

Sessions are collaborative and practical. You will not be forced to relive trauma, but we will gently connect past patterns to present dynamics so change becomes possible.

Relational work is most effective when both partners participate, as the focus is on what happens between you. In some situations, individual sessions may be appropriate and can be discussed during the consultation.

Yes. I work with couples worldwide, including partners living outside the United States and those who have relocated internationally.

All sessions are held virtually, and scheduling is coordinated thoughtfully across time zones. As long as you have a stable internet connection and a private space to speak openly, we can work together from wherever you are living.

I offer a single session option as well as multi session packages for couples who want more consistent, structured support. Packages are designed to build momentum and allow enough time to interrupt patterns and practice new ways of relating.

Current rates and package details are listed on the Work With Me page.

Because this is coaching and not psychotherapy, sessions are not covered by insurance and payment is made out of pocket.

The first step is scheduling a free 15-minute consultation. This gives us a chance to talk about what’s been happening and whether working together feels like a good fit.

Relationship coaching is not appropriate for situations involving active domestic violence, coercive control, or where safety cannot be established. This work is not crisis support. If additional or different support would be more appropriate, that will be discussed openly.